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Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
The Glambergirl Alert: Dancing With The Stars
How excited are you with this season's Dancing with the Stars cast?!
The new season starts on Monday September 19th and I actually might watch this season.
Nancy Grace, Ron Artest, Kristin Cavallari, and Robert Kardashian are just some on the big names that will appear on the hit ABC show this season.
Will Rob Kardashian do a better job of moving his hips than his sister? Will Nancy Grace soften up her hard image on the dance floor? Can Kristin's The Hills fans help her survive on the show? I guess we'll have to tune in on September 20th to get the results.
Take a look at the cast and tell me who you think has a shot at taking the title home.
*photo from Getty images.
Monday, August 29, 2011
On the Tele: VMA 2011 - Performances
Let's talk performances shall we. We have to start with Lady Gaga, who is always trying something different. Last night we were intro'd to Jo Calderone, her male alter ego. I was entertained in the beginning by it, but was over it during the Britney Spears tribute. Gaga opened with "You and I".
I was pleasantly surprised to see Jay-Z and Kanye perform "Otis" last night. I just love this whole Watch the Throne album. It's one of the best collabos in music. They are both on top of their game and they just seem to really be having a good time.
Pitbull and Ne-yo helped get the party started with "Give me Everything". I must say, Pitbull wore red pants way better than Bieber. And, you can never go wrong with a laser show.
One of my fave singers of the moment is Adele. She can just sing. She performed "Someone Like You", and those lyrics are just touching. Love when a singer just sing, no background dancing, no auto-tune, no lip-synching...just a piano, a mic, and a voice. And I did love her retro feel ensemble.
Chris Brown didn't sing at all last night and I was alright with that. He's a good dancer and put his skills to good use. He performed to a melange of songs and genres. I thought his performance was visually appealing, and while he basically lip-synced, his dancing made up for it.
MTV paid tribute to Amy Winehouse with Tony Bennett and Bruno Mars. I thought the tribute was very well done, a little short, but nice and made us all remember the talent Amy had. Bruno sang "Valerie".
And to close out the show, Lil Wayne performed. *sighs* I was with him when he was performing "How to Love", but then I was done when he switched over to his 'smells like teen spirit' rocker vibe, picked up a guitar, strummed it twice, then throws it down. All of this done in animal print jeggings (?) Next thing I know, the VMAs came to a close after he pushed the mic down.
See you all next year!
I was pleasantly surprised to see Jay-Z and Kanye perform "Otis" last night. I just love this whole Watch the Throne album. It's one of the best collabos in music. They are both on top of their game and they just seem to really be having a good time.
Pitbull and Ne-yo helped get the party started with "Give me Everything". I must say, Pitbull wore red pants way better than Bieber. And, you can never go wrong with a laser show.
One of my fave singers of the moment is Adele. She can just sing. She performed "Someone Like You", and those lyrics are just touching. Love when a singer just sing, no background dancing, no auto-tune, no lip-synching...just a piano, a mic, and a voice. And I did love her retro feel ensemble.
Chris Brown didn't sing at all last night and I was alright with that. He's a good dancer and put his skills to good use. He performed to a melange of songs and genres. I thought his performance was visually appealing, and while he basically lip-synced, his dancing made up for it.
MTV paid tribute to Amy Winehouse with Tony Bennett and Bruno Mars. I thought the tribute was very well done, a little short, but nice and made us all remember the talent Amy had. Bruno sang "Valerie".
And to close out the show, Lil Wayne performed. *sighs* I was with him when he was performing "How to Love", but then I was done when he switched over to his 'smells like teen spirit' rocker vibe, picked up a guitar, strummed it twice, then throws it down. All of this done in animal print jeggings (?) Next thing I know, the VMAs came to a close after he pushed the mic down.
See you all next year!
On the Tele: VMA 2011 Red Carpet recap
Kim Kardashian Humphries looked gorge, as usual, in this liquid silver Kaufman Franco gown that was business in the front and party in the back.
Kelly Rowland looks gorge in this mini-black number. I didn't even see her at the Pre-Show, but came across this photo. Her and Zoe Saldana were dressed kind of similarly.
*thanks to Just Jared and MTV for the photos*
I am dying to know...who were your red carpet hits and misses??
On the Tele: VMA 2011 - Beyonce sports a Jiggabump!
And if you missed Beyonce's killer performance singing Love on Top (one of my faves), view it below. Love how she dropped the mic, opened her Dolce & Gabbana jacket, and rubbed her belly. By the way, I don't think I have ever seen that much emotion out of Jay-Z (and Kanye).
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Style Snaps: Rihanna in Yves Saint Laurent
In the meantime, here are some cool look alikes that can achieve the same look...
Shoe Love Quickie: Giuseppe Zanotti Cutout Suede Sandals
Giuseppe Zanotti cutout suede sandals. $850. Net-a-Porter.com
Friday, August 26, 2011
Just Reading: Forbes - The World's 100 Most Powerful Women
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| First Lady Michelle Obama. #8 |
For the complete list, click on Forbes Girl Power.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Thursday Love: Living in Fear...How to Cope? Part 5
Jewel of wisdom du jour: Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent - Salvor Hardin
The last two causes of physical abuse that we'll talk about this week are "substance abuse" and "involvement or lack of involvement by bystanders".
These last two aren't necessarily root causes of abuse in any form, but they do contribute to the perpetuation of abuse. In what ways? Think about this....we've all done some pretty stupid things or have made a fool of ourselves as a result of overindulgence in beverages of an alcoholic variety...now would you normally have behaved that way had you not been intoxicated? Chances are the answer is....NO! But what happened....your inhibitions were lowered as a result of the alcohol which caused you to act in a more carefree manner...not really caring if you cursed out your best friend, made out with someone that you'd normally never even talk to, etc. The same thing is true when it comes to people who have abusive tendencies. While they normally (sober) wouldn't even contemplate laying a hand on their partner because of an argument....when they drink or do other drugs...that logical reasoning that pops into their heads to prevent them from acting in that manner....never speaks up! Now granted, the previous causes we spoke about are usually the underlying reasoning behind someone being abusive; along with others that we didn't touch on, but the alcohol or drug is the gate keeper that allows someones range of emotions to swing from calm and relaxed into a violent tirade!!!
Bystanders too can be an impetus for abusive behavior to continue unfettered. Bystanders aren't the ones causing harm to anyone, so how do they have a share in this problem of abuse? Bystanders aren't getting grouped in because of what they did....but for what they DON'T do!
Research has proven that abusers will continue their abuse if they discover that people who know about or suspect abuse are reluctant to intercede. Bystanders usually fear either physical, social, or legal consequences for reporting abuse or attempting to intervene...which usually results in abusers having a sense of invulnerability. And once an abuser feels invulnerable they'll continue the abuse relentlessly, until they go too far and seriously injure their partner or their partner has dealt with it enough and retaliates in a drastic manner.
So as a friend or family member how can you tell if someone close to you is dealing with an abusive relationship at home?
Begin by asserting to your partner that you're NOT going to take their abuse anymore, whether verbal or physical. When saying this, make sure that you actually have the resolve to leave if their behavior doesn't improve or gets worse. They have to know that you're willing to leave. Next you need to get and stay prepared just in case things take an ugly turn. Develop a violence safety plan. You need to do this to protect yourself and or children and to help you escape to safety.
Have an overnight bag ready at all times so that if an abrupt exit is necessary....you're ready. This should have money, a change of clothes, extra car or house keys, important information/documents you may need, etc. I would say to hide this bag in as safe a place as possible, however, when dealing with someone who willingly puts their hands on you, it'd be better to hide this bag at a friend's or family members house whom you can trust. Then you need to have an escape plan in place for how you're going to get out of the house if your partner loses their cool. For example...park your car in a way that will allow for a quick exit. Memorize as many important phone numbers as you can because it may not always be possible for you to get to your cell phone. And most important....if running from your abuser, do your best to get outside and away from confined spaces....only lock or barricade yourself into a safe place if that's absolutely necessary.
Lastly, make sure that someone knows what's going on so that they can be there to help you through the situation....there's nothing worse than having that feeling that you have to go through a difficult problem like this alone.
Remember....."You're Worth It".
The last two causes of physical abuse that we'll talk about this week are "substance abuse" and "involvement or lack of involvement by bystanders".
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| Abuse can be fueled by addiction |
These last two aren't necessarily root causes of abuse in any form, but they do contribute to the perpetuation of abuse. In what ways? Think about this....we've all done some pretty stupid things or have made a fool of ourselves as a result of overindulgence in beverages of an alcoholic variety...now would you normally have behaved that way had you not been intoxicated? Chances are the answer is....NO! But what happened....your inhibitions were lowered as a result of the alcohol which caused you to act in a more carefree manner...not really caring if you cursed out your best friend, made out with someone that you'd normally never even talk to, etc. The same thing is true when it comes to people who have abusive tendencies. While they normally (sober) wouldn't even contemplate laying a hand on their partner because of an argument....when they drink or do other drugs...that logical reasoning that pops into their heads to prevent them from acting in that manner....never speaks up! Now granted, the previous causes we spoke about are usually the underlying reasoning behind someone being abusive; along with others that we didn't touch on, but the alcohol or drug is the gate keeper that allows someones range of emotions to swing from calm and relaxed into a violent tirade!!!
Bystanders too can be an impetus for abusive behavior to continue unfettered. Bystanders aren't the ones causing harm to anyone, so how do they have a share in this problem of abuse? Bystanders aren't getting grouped in because of what they did....but for what they DON'T do!Research has proven that abusers will continue their abuse if they discover that people who know about or suspect abuse are reluctant to intercede. Bystanders usually fear either physical, social, or legal consequences for reporting abuse or attempting to intervene...which usually results in abusers having a sense of invulnerability. And once an abuser feels invulnerable they'll continue the abuse relentlessly, until they go too far and seriously injure their partner or their partner has dealt with it enough and retaliates in a drastic manner.
So as a friend or family member how can you tell if someone close to you is dealing with an abusive relationship at home?
- They have frequent injuries, especially ones inconsistent with their explanations
- They're becoming increasingly withdrawn and isolated from you or their family
- They're jumpy or depressed
- They seem afraid of their partner
- Their partner is jealous, possessive, or constantly criticizing
Begin by asserting to your partner that you're NOT going to take their abuse anymore, whether verbal or physical. When saying this, make sure that you actually have the resolve to leave if their behavior doesn't improve or gets worse. They have to know that you're willing to leave. Next you need to get and stay prepared just in case things take an ugly turn. Develop a violence safety plan. You need to do this to protect yourself and or children and to help you escape to safety.
Have an overnight bag ready at all times so that if an abrupt exit is necessary....you're ready. This should have money, a change of clothes, extra car or house keys, important information/documents you may need, etc. I would say to hide this bag in as safe a place as possible, however, when dealing with someone who willingly puts their hands on you, it'd be better to hide this bag at a friend's or family members house whom you can trust. Then you need to have an escape plan in place for how you're going to get out of the house if your partner loses their cool. For example...park your car in a way that will allow for a quick exit. Memorize as many important phone numbers as you can because it may not always be possible for you to get to your cell phone. And most important....if running from your abuser, do your best to get outside and away from confined spaces....only lock or barricade yourself into a safe place if that's absolutely necessary.
Lastly, make sure that someone knows what's going on so that they can be there to help you through the situation....there's nothing worse than having that feeling that you have to go through a difficult problem like this alone.
Remember....."You're Worth It".
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
LOL: Anne Hathaway channels Lil' Wayne
I am not sure who caught Conan on TBS last week, but this clip of Anne Hathaway channeling rap superstar Lil' Wayne still makes me laugh. I think I need to set my DVR to tape Conan because I am Team Coco. It's Wednesday, we deserve a laugh moment. By the way, Anne scored major cool points from me now.
On the Tele: BET's Aaliyah Tribute
Loving: Missoni hits the bulls-eye at Target
*Remember, the Missoni for Target collection launches Sept. 13th. But we hear from RACKED NY that you can make early purchases during FNO. (click the link for more info)*
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
The Glambergirl Alert: Here Comes the Multi-Millonaire
Unless you were born yesterday, pretty much the entire world was well aware that this past weekend reality TV star Kim Kardashian married her beau Kris Humphries in a beautiful estate in California.
The black and white themed wedding took place on Saturday August 20th and it looks like I missed the party of the year. It's ok Kim, I guess my invite got lost in the mail. The bride was dressed in a Vera Wang gown with her hair pull back and draped with a diamond head piece. She truly looked like an Armenian princess.
The star studded wedding had many of Kim's pals there. La La Anthony, Ryan Seacrest, Eva Longoria, Demi Lovato and many more. Kim and Kris also received the best wedding gift of all. TONS and TONS of money. The newlyweds reportedly raked in a reported $17.9 million the wedding. That includes the two-part E wedding special, People magazine photos of her bridal shower, Kim's Tao bachelorette party and much more.
Man, I wish I could have married Kim, but CONGRATS to the couple and check out full coverage of Kim's fairy tale wedding here.
Friday, August 19, 2011
Living in Fear...How To Cope? Part 4
Jewel of wisdom du jour: "Abuse is the weapon of the vulgar." - Samuel Griswold Goodrich
Last week we spoke about early learning experiences being a huge factor in someones becoming abusive in their adult lives.We also mentioned a few other things that can cause someone to grow up believing that abusive behavior is acceptable....even normal.
This week we're going to briefly discuss how economic stress and or lack of social or personal support can cause someone to be abusive.
Think about your own personal situation for a second. Not to say you're an abuser or being abused...but think of the economical stress you find yourself under with the way this economy is currently. Now hopefully you are able to handle economic problems better than lashing out at your loved ones, but that's exactly what some people do. There are many people who can't or don't know how to handle economic problems from an emotional standpoint. Not knowing how to cope when things get rough, they lash out at their partner when their partner truly ISN'T the issue! Sometimes these abusive persons feel that since they're the one carrying the brunt of the economic responsibility that they can act however they wish, and that's just not acceptable and shouldn't be tolerated.
These same people tend to feel a lack of social or emotional support from those closest to them. This is also an extremely flawed mentality to have because this kind of behavior won't do anything except alienate those closest to them...and cause them to withdraw further and further away from them until they're left alone. I'm not one who's big on using medication in order to force behavioral modifications, however, in these instances it may be necessary. As stated before, these ones tend to have very low self-esteem and self-image issues and this causes them to look at situations completely different than the average normal person.
Well then, what should be your reaction to being treated in such a way?
I'm not one who's big on violence, so I wouldn't recommend using violence or threats of violence, because all that will do is instigate more violence. I'm am however a big advocate for explaining how someones actions are making you feel and making sure they understand that if they continue to treat you in this manner then you won't be around for much longer to take their abuse.
The next step is actually following through on what you just stated. Give them a chance to change their ways (if they even say that they're going to try), but don't be a fool about it. Don't continue giving chance after chance after chance. There HAS TO BE A STOPPING POINT, where you decide ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! No one can make that decision for you....and you don't want to make that decision too late. Your life could very well depend on it!
Have the strength and courage to follow through on your necessity to leave them because of their abuse. Deciding it's time to walk away and doing it isn't the hardest part. The hardest part is when this person contacts you and begs for your forgiveness and pleads telling you "they've changed". What are you going to do?
This is where the biggest dilemma comes in. It's natural for people to want to believe that the person they care so deeply for....the person they love has changed because of the absence of you in their lives. It's almost heartwarming to know that they've "realized" how wrong they were and have already begun changing. What needs to be a warning reminder though is that abusers don't become abusers overnight, it's taken some time for them to become the person they are....and it's going to take time as well for them to change who that person is; And it's going to take more than two weeks...to see a positive emotional, character change in them. I'm not in the business of telling people "how" to live their lives....I just make logical recommendations, and whether people choose to listen to them is up to them. So I won't say that it's NOT a good idea to take an abuser back who says and shows through actions that have changed and are continuing to change. However, be wary of jumping back into things full swing, take your time and start feeling that person out again before committing again. And like I said....be mindful of their actions...not their words. Because through their actions, you'll see whether their behavior/attitude/character has or is being modified for the better.
Remember....."You're Worth It."
Last week we spoke about early learning experiences being a huge factor in someones becoming abusive in their adult lives.We also mentioned a few other things that can cause someone to grow up believing that abusive behavior is acceptable....even normal.
This week we're going to briefly discuss how economic stress and or lack of social or personal support can cause someone to be abusive.
Think about your own personal situation for a second. Not to say you're an abuser or being abused...but think of the economical stress you find yourself under with the way this economy is currently. Now hopefully you are able to handle economic problems better than lashing out at your loved ones, but that's exactly what some people do. There are many people who can't or don't know how to handle economic problems from an emotional standpoint. Not knowing how to cope when things get rough, they lash out at their partner when their partner truly ISN'T the issue! Sometimes these abusive persons feel that since they're the one carrying the brunt of the economic responsibility that they can act however they wish, and that's just not acceptable and shouldn't be tolerated.
These same people tend to feel a lack of social or emotional support from those closest to them. This is also an extremely flawed mentality to have because this kind of behavior won't do anything except alienate those closest to them...and cause them to withdraw further and further away from them until they're left alone. I'm not one who's big on using medication in order to force behavioral modifications, however, in these instances it may be necessary. As stated before, these ones tend to have very low self-esteem and self-image issues and this causes them to look at situations completely different than the average normal person.
Well then, what should be your reaction to being treated in such a way?
I'm not one who's big on violence, so I wouldn't recommend using violence or threats of violence, because all that will do is instigate more violence. I'm am however a big advocate for explaining how someones actions are making you feel and making sure they understand that if they continue to treat you in this manner then you won't be around for much longer to take their abuse.
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| When is enough.....enough? |
Have the strength and courage to follow through on your necessity to leave them because of their abuse. Deciding it's time to walk away and doing it isn't the hardest part. The hardest part is when this person contacts you and begs for your forgiveness and pleads telling you "they've changed". What are you going to do?
This is where the biggest dilemma comes in. It's natural for people to want to believe that the person they care so deeply for....the person they love has changed because of the absence of you in their lives. It's almost heartwarming to know that they've "realized" how wrong they were and have already begun changing. What needs to be a warning reminder though is that abusers don't become abusers overnight, it's taken some time for them to become the person they are....and it's going to take time as well for them to change who that person is; And it's going to take more than two weeks...to see a positive emotional, character change in them. I'm not in the business of telling people "how" to live their lives....I just make logical recommendations, and whether people choose to listen to them is up to them. So I won't say that it's NOT a good idea to take an abuser back who says and shows through actions that have changed and are continuing to change. However, be wary of jumping back into things full swing, take your time and start feeling that person out again before committing again. And like I said....be mindful of their actions...not their words. Because through their actions, you'll see whether their behavior/attitude/character has or is being modified for the better.
Remember....."You're Worth It."
Wedding Bliss: Michael Kors and Lance Le Pere
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
The Glambergirl Alert: A Brand New Daniel
Now that the huge franchise Harry Potter has finally come to an end everyone is wondering what will become of the famous trio that we've watched grow through puberty over the years right before our eyes. It seems Daniel Radcliffe has found his niche outside of the franchise.
More and More I'm becoming addicted to my Perez Hilton app on my iPhone and that's how I discovered the trailer for Radcliffe's upcoming film The Woman in Black. The film is not set to hit theaters until early next year but the trailer has colored me intrigued.
The creepy music, the eerie little girls, Daniel Radcliffe without a wand in his hand...It's just too scary!! Hahaha. Check out the trailer for yourself! Is this a good transition for Radcliffe?
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Fashion Week: MBFW New York S/S 12 Schedule
*click on the photo to enlarge.
Start making your schedules kens and dolls. Fashion week is right around the corner! (Well, we have a few weeks, but weeks in the fashion world are just a few days to get ready.)
xo
Living in Fear...How To Cope? Part 3
Jewel of wisdom du jour: The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself - Mark Caine
We've spoken about verbal abuse over the last couple of weeks and have genuinely explained that no one should have to just deal with verbal abuse. Everyone must come to the realization that remaining in a verbally abusive relationship is only a stepping stone to what could come. It's never been concretely proven that verbal abuse ALWAYS leads to physical abuse. But what's to say that it won't?
Physical abuse is contact between persons that's intended to cause pain, injury, or other physical suffering or harm. Includes but not limited to: punching, pushing, pulling, shaking, slapping, choking, striking with an object, locking in or out of a room or home (false imprisonment), kicking, causing someone to fall, sleep deprivation, heat or cold overexposure, burning, unlawfully restraining, cutting, withholding food or medication, and or throwing objects. That's a long list of things that can be constituted physical abuse, but that's not everything. Before we get into details why some of these forms of abuse are used, let's take a look at some reasons why someone could turn into an abuser.
If a young boy sees his father come home on a regular basis drunk, upset about his job, and takes it out on his mother, while she goes above and beyond to appease her abusive husband in an attempt to avert the abuse...what is that child learning? Simply, that aggression and violence or the threat of violence are acceptable and get you what you want in life. This will stick with them and they'll carry it through their relationships as they get older.
We've spoken about verbal abuse over the last couple of weeks and have genuinely explained that no one should have to just deal with verbal abuse. Everyone must come to the realization that remaining in a verbally abusive relationship is only a stepping stone to what could come. It's never been concretely proven that verbal abuse ALWAYS leads to physical abuse. But what's to say that it won't?
Physical abuse is contact between persons that's intended to cause pain, injury, or other physical suffering or harm. Includes but not limited to: punching, pushing, pulling, shaking, slapping, choking, striking with an object, locking in or out of a room or home (false imprisonment), kicking, causing someone to fall, sleep deprivation, heat or cold overexposure, burning, unlawfully restraining, cutting, withholding food or medication, and or throwing objects. That's a long list of things that can be constituted physical abuse, but that's not everything. Before we get into details why some of these forms of abuse are used, let's take a look at some reasons why someone could turn into an abuser.
- Early learning experiences
- Economic stress
- Feeling a lack of social or emotional support
- Twisted thinking of acceptable practices
- Alcohol or substance abuse
- Involvement of bystanders
Lets take the first one and we'll address the rest in the coming weeks.
Early Learning Experiences: What exactly does that mean? This is the "life cycle" of abuse. Abuse tends to run a certain course through someones life, it's not usually something they begin on their own; it's usually a behavior learned from either how they were treated growing up or how they saw their parents interact. Think about it, when growing up the people that we tend to most try to model ourselves after are our parents. And as a kid who doesn't necessarily know that his father or mother's mistreatment of the other mate is wrong, could pick that up as a learned behavior and grow up thinking that it's perfectly normal to act in such a way.
If a young boy sees his father come home on a regular basis drunk, upset about his job, and takes it out on his mother, while she goes above and beyond to appease her abusive husband in an attempt to avert the abuse...what is that child learning? Simply, that aggression and violence or the threat of violence are acceptable and get you what you want in life. This will stick with them and they'll carry it through their relationships as they get older.It's sad to say it, but we inherit more than we know from our parents. I'm not just referring to DNA, which makes us who we are; I'm also referring to our personalities, the way in which we handle pressure situations, how we interact with our spouses, can all be considered learned behaviors whether good or bad. It's up to us as a people to stop letting our young children see these bad examples of what a relationship is supposed to be. If we do our part, our young men will be less likely to become abusive to their future partners and mates and our young women will be less likely to take the abuse as if they've done something wrong.
Next week we'll discuss more reasons that could cause someone to become physically abusive toward their mate or partner. We'll also discuss what steps can and should be taken in order to protect one's self from being abused.
Remember....."You're Worth It".
Next week we'll discuss more reasons that could cause someone to become physically abusive toward their mate or partner. We'll also discuss what steps can and should be taken in order to protect one's self from being abused.
Remember....."You're Worth It".
The Glambergirl Alert: Are You Afraid of the Dark?
When I see a horror film for the first time I view it between the cracks of my hands covering my eyes, but for Don't Be Afraid of the Dark, in particular, I might view it for the first time with my back towards the screen!
Guillermo Del Toro is the producer of the 2011 version of 1973 straight to TV film. Toro along with stars of the film (Katie Holmes, Guy Pearce, and Bailee Madison) spoke about the film on Monday, August 8th, as part of Film Society of Lincoln Center's Film Comment Selects series.
The informal panel discussion took place for 45 minutes. Check out the link above to see what was talked about.
I'll be honest, even the trailer for the film even scares me, who knows what the entire film will do to me *nervous laugh* I'll let you be the judge. Are You Afraid of the Dark? Find out when the movies hit theaters everywhere on August 26.
Contest: Win 2 Tickets to Project Runway Fashion Week Finale
You and a friend could win two (2) tickets to the Project Runway Fashion Week Finale show at Lincoln Center on Sept. 9th, 2011. The winners will be flown into NYC for 3-days and 2-nights at a hotel, receive 2-tickets to the fashion show, and get a personal meet and greet with Heidi Klum backstage.
Want to enter? Click Make it Work!
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Eye Candy: Kyboe Watches (@KyboeUSA)
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| Banana split. $329 |
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| Tickled Pink. $329 |
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| Class Act. $359 |
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| Masterpiece. $359 |
GILTy pleasure por homme: Park & Bond
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| Home screen snapshot. |
(Maybe now the guys can understand why we heart GILT so much.)
Monday, August 8, 2011
Coiffed Up: Rihanna spends $23,000 a week!
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Thursday Love: Living in Fear...How to Cope? Part 2
Jewel of wisdom du jour: When someone shows you who they are....BELIEVE IT!
Last week we began speaking about abuse of various forms...more specifically verbal abuse. We talked about some of the characteristics of verbal abuse so this week we're going to begin discussing some steps that can be taken to minimize the impact that abuse can have on you (if you find yourself in a verbally abusive relationship).
Let's first look at some steps that can be taken in order to be proactive in trying to counteract the effects brought on by verbal abuse:
Most who face verbally abusive partners at home tend spend their time focusing inward, soul-searching, taking inventory, trying to identify what they've done wrong. Cancel the notion that you've done something wrong or that you are weak because it takes a very strong person to endure life in an environment of verbal violence. It takes tremendous courage to face your tormentor again and again. While that is a great showing of your inner strength, it's an amazing waste of that strength at the same time.
Last week we began speaking about abuse of various forms...more specifically verbal abuse. We talked about some of the characteristics of verbal abuse so this week we're going to begin discussing some steps that can be taken to minimize the impact that abuse can have on you (if you find yourself in a verbally abusive relationship).
Let's first look at some steps that can be taken in order to be proactive in trying to counteract the effects brought on by verbal abuse:
- Know that the abuse is not your fault, and never blame yourself for it. You can never allow yourself to justify any abuse.
- Let your abuser know how much their harsh words/speech hurt you.
- Discuss ways in which each partner can improve in order to strengthen the relationship.
- Surround yourself with a strong support system of friends, family, etc.
- If verbal abuse ever begins to escalate into physical abuse, leave the dangerous situation and allow a cooling down period to occur.
What else should a victim of verbal abuse keep in mind?
- When your partner begins to launch into a tirade...stay calm. Do not become agitated.
- Allow the abuser to vent. Don't try to interrupt them, allow them to rant, eventually they will lose steam when they realize that you're not going to feed into it or allow yourself to become a victim of their abuse.
- Do not reward the abuser by reacting to their actions with your own hurtful responses. Lashing out will let an abuser know that they have the power to affect your emotions.
- React with wisdom, not with feelings.
- Guard your heart; don't take the abusers hurtful words personally.
Learn to understand verbal abuse and how it's designed to make someone feel unloved, unwanted, unnecessary, or unworthy. Realize that the abuser feels a need to make themselves feel more powerful and in control by putting others down. Keep in mind that most abusers feel a sense of insecurity and this abusive pattern is their way of regaining their security within themselves.
Most who face verbally abusive partners at home tend spend their time focusing inward, soul-searching, taking inventory, trying to identify what they've done wrong. Cancel the notion that you've done something wrong or that you are weak because it takes a very strong person to endure life in an environment of verbal violence. It takes tremendous courage to face your tormentor again and again. While that is a great showing of your inner strength, it's an amazing waste of that strength at the same time.Remember the jewel of wisdom du jour...."When someone shows you who they are...BELIEVE IT! This means that if someone is verbally abusive towards you, you can only do but so much to get them to realize what they're doing to you. Like we said a few weeks ago....don't live your life blinded by the rose colored glasses of love. Keep your eyes open to what they're doing and don't listen to only what they may say to get you stay with them. Someone who is verbally/emotionally abusive towards someone they "claim" to love has to WANT to change, and if your attempts at getting them to see their wrongdoing continue to fail...then it may be time for you move on before it turns into something much worse....like physical abuse; which we'll discuss next week.
For more information on verbal abuse and ways to cope or prevent it, read chapter 5 "Abusive Partners & Self-Esteem" in my book entitled "You're Worth It" that is available for download here: www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495.
For more information on verbal abuse and ways to cope or prevent it, read chapter 5 "Abusive Partners & Self-Esteem" in my book entitled "You're Worth It" that is available for download here: www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Fashion News: ZARA to launch e-commerce in U.S.
I am a big ZARA fan and to know that I can finally shop from home is exciting! While it was only a rumor, it has now been confirmed that the retail store will be launching an e-commerce site on September 7th, just in time to Fall up your closet for the new season. Now we can all skip those long lines and just go online to get Zara'd.
The Glambergirl Alert: Keeping Up With The Wedding
Move over Kate Middleton! It looks like Kim Kardashian will have the wedding of the year!
If keeping up with Kim wasn't hard enough, add a wedding to the mix and things just get harder. Kim Kardashian and soon to be hubby Kris Humphires have been all over the press lately with every detail of their upcoming wedding. From cake tastings, Vera Wang gowns, and to what the wedding invitation will look like, this wedding is shaping up to be quite an event. But come on, with Kim K. would you expect anything less!
It's even been announced that E! has scheduled a two-part event called "Kim's Fairytale Wedding: A Kardashian Event" for October 9th and 10th that documents all the events leading up to the big August 20th wedding date.
I know I'll be watching! Will you?
I know I'll be watching! Will you?
*Photo from TheKimKardashian.com
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